An idol relationship is founded on good communication but it’s not like you can talk about anything with your partner. There are some limits that a girl should not cross in her relationship otherwise it will be a bumpy ride ahead in your relationship with your man. There are certain matters which are better left alone and not discussed with your boyfriend. You need to keep your relationship simple, sweet, affectionate and full of love. Why bring in something in your relationship which will create rift between you and your boyfriend. iChhori team has some tips for all the girls which might come in pretty handy in handling the relationships in an elegant way.
Never say ‘Shut Up’
“Shut up” I am right. If this sounds familiar to you, you must pay attention. Never use ‘shut up’ in the conversation with your boyfriend. This word shows arrogance and it must not be allowed in any relationship. A healthy relationship needs respect and understanding between you two and if you use these harsh and arrogant words then it becomes the arrogant relationship which is likely to die its natural death sooner or later. To get the respect from him, you need to show the respect to the other side. This word ‘shut up’ is the ultimate sign of disrespect. So better not use these words.
Your behaviour reminds me of my Ex-boyfriend
If you tell your boyfriend that he reminds you of your ex, you are firing bullets at your tender relationship. An obvious response will be like this, “I remind you of your freaking ex, is this what I mean to you?” You are in a relationship and you can’t tell your boyfriend that you still remember your ex. It hurts. Your partner might think that you are cheating on him. You should not bring your ex in your present as it might and rather it will ruin your beautiful relationship.
Do not say ‘Your friend is really hot’
If you every now and then you tell your boyfriend that his friend is very hot and he is very interesting. His response will be “Am I not?” Don’t take your partner for granted. He loves you and he definitely does not expect you to compliment some other guy. In his mind, he is the only love you have in your life at present and this type of comment will make his love fade for you. So, never make your boyfriend insecure as it’s not worth it.
Your parents drive me nuts
If you love your family to death so does your boyfriend. He loves his parents as much as you do. Telling your boyfriend that you hate his parents will make him feel very bad. If you two are getting into a committed relationship, your comments about his parents will make him loose confidence in you. How can he believe that you will be taking care of his parents if he decides to make you his life partner? If you have any issues with his parents you need to discuss it with him rather than passing any judgement on his parents.
You are fat or you are gaining weight
Just like us girls, boys also don’t like to be commented on their body types and body shapes. You can’t tell them that they are not fit and are looking fat and chubby. These are the lines which no one wants you hear. There are other ways to talk about improving the health of your partner. If you genuinely feel that he should start working out and be in shape, you need to discuss this with him rather than making him feel bad about it. You need to encourage him to do better. Your comments can turn into an argument and can bring bitterness into your sweet relationship.
You usually forget the important dates: I am glad that you remember
This is the biggest misconception that boys never remember important dates of the relationship such as anniversary dates, birthdays etc. They are thoughtful and watchful as girls and it is insulting if you tell them that they don’t remember important dates. Boys might have their own share of pressure, stress and problems and hence they might not remember certain dates of certain occasions but it does not mean that they do no care. They definitely care as much as we girls do.
So these are some tips for you which might save your relationship. You just need to be a bit thoughtful and responsible person in a relationship rather than opening up your mouth without giving it a thought. Above mentioned points can prove to be a great deal for your tender and sweet relationship to make it last longer and memorable.
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