12 Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas That Totally Beat An Overpriced Dinner
Consider the following: After an hour of waiting in line, you and your significant other are crammed into some snobby restaurant, where you pay exorbitant prices for Cupid-themed "small plates" and are so surrounded by strangers that you can't hear yourself think. Okay, a fancy dinner for February 14 isn't the worst idea, and it can be quite pleasant. You and your SO, on the other hand, might be looking for something a little more creative, intimate, and spicy than overpriced entrees. Perhaps you're reserving *dessert* for after dinner. In any case, these sexy Valentine's Day ideas are far more entertaining than a single pricey meal.
Unless you're Monica Geller, the idea of planning something sexy may appear diametrically opposed to the essence of sexiness itself. While you are not required to write an exact script of everything that will occur, a little effort can go a long way. There are plenty of saucy activities that will turn up the heat at home, from couple's massages to sex bucket lists.
Whether you celebrate the holiday or not, Valentine's Day is a good reminder to show your love some extra love. Without the gifts and glitz, it can be a chance to check in with your partner about your sex life and celebrate your connection.
Here are 12 Valentine's Day dates that are simple, inexpensive, and totally hot.
1. Go On A Sex Toy Shopping Spree
Shopping for new sex toys with your partner has a very hot vibe to it, and it's a great way to spice up your sex life if it's feeling a little "same-old," says Dr. Martha Lee, D.H.S., relationship counsellor, clinical sexologist, author, and owner of Eros Coaching. Whether you're new to vibes or have a toy box full of them, looking at the variety of toys available can create an encouraging space for you and your partner to communicate about your needs and desires. Even if you just window shop, talking about sex toys will likely turn you both on — but you can also buy an item or two for some extra sexy Valentine's gifts.
2. Do A Couple's Massage
The best foreplay isn't always sexual — it's sensual. "Sex isn't just sex," says Lee.. "A massage can help to turn on our senses, relax the body, calm the nervous system, and prepare us for a meaningful time connecting with each other." Light some candles, play some soothing music, gather your favourite oils and lotions, and give your partner a professional massage. Learn about each other's weak points and increase the sexual tension.
3. Experiment With Role Play
"Do you remember playing dress-up and role-playing as a kid?" "Bring it into the bedroom," Lee suggests. Using your imagination and creativity between the sheets is a super sexy way to make your fantasies a reality. "You can do it with or without the costume — it's all in the name of fun," Lee says. Plan out your roles ahead of time so you can put forth the effort of dressing up (if desired) and getting into character.
4. Plan A Sensual Spa Night
Bring the spa right into your own home. Take a hot shower together, using essential oils for aromatherapy. Similarly to the couple's massage, igniting each other's senses with some relaxation is ideal foreplay. Light candles throughout your home to create a relaxing and enticing atmosphere. (Hide all dirty laundry and computer wires for one night.) Recreate a spa experience at home, complete with soothing treatments (face masks, body scrubs) to soften and smooth each other.
5. Explore Erotica
It can be difficult to come up with something sexy to say on the spur of the moment. So, follow in the footsteps of all great artists and steal from someone else. "Erotic reading and conversation can add a new dimension to your couple date," Lee says. Find some erotica to share with one another. Choose something that excites you, whether it's a poem or a passage from a novel.
If you'd rather listen to something together, Lee recommends "Aural Honey, Dipsea, Emjoy, Femtasy, Ferly, Literotica, OhChelo, Quinn, and Sofia Sins," as well as "audio erotica apps you can check out: Aural Honey, Dipsea, Emjoy, Femtasy, Ferly, Literotica, OhChelo, Quinn, and Sofia Sins."These apps offer sexy audio stories to match your mood or fantasy. Sharing sexy stories that get you going is a great way to get to know each other's desires.
6. Play A Sexy Game
Grab a bottle of red and settle in for a sexy game night in the living room. To spice things up, Lee suggests playing sex games, erotic dice, strip poker, or truth or dare challenges. Perhaps you could take turns doing some consensual power play, or you could blindfold each other and tease each other. "These get the creative juices flowing and help both of you become more adaptable lovers," Lee says.
7. Try A Blindfolded Taste Test
Grab a blindfold and take turns feeding each other some delectable treats to satisfy both your literal and sexual appetites. "When you're blindfolded, your other senses become more acute," Lee explains. "When we can't see what we're eating, food tastes different — have fun exploring your senses." Try erotic foods and aphrodisiac desserts such as chocolate, berries, or candy — the possibilities are limitless.
8. Host A Sex Scavenger Hunt
What better night to experiment in the kitchen or with bondage? Make a sex "bucket list" or scavenger hunt of salacious adventures you've always wanted to partake in, and work all night to cross them all off. "Think The Amazing Race, where you have to complete challenges to avoid being eliminated," Lee suggests. This is a great way to learn more about each other's desires and gauge each other's feelings about new things you've been wanting to try.
9. Do A (Naked) Fashion Show
The best part of getting dressed up is probably getting dressed down. "Being naked can make us feel vulnerable and naked, both physically and emotionally," Lee tells Bustle. Choose nice outfits for each other (including hot undies or lingerie) and put on an at-home fashion show. Strip down as a group and continue on for some naked time. Make it a photoshoot for extra points.
10. Build A Fort At Home
You can either go camping outside (weather permitting) or set up a tent or fort inside your home. In any case, the experience adds an element of adventure and childlike excitement to a steamy Valentine's Day date. "The tent already creates a cocoon that heightens intimacy and feeling like you're in a love bubble," Lee adds.
11. Plan A Picnic (Plus Dessert)
Make it extra special by including a picnic basket, charcuterie board, breads and jams, and sweet drinks. It'll start out as a cute cottagecore living room date and then get extra spicy as the night progresses. "Convert your living room into your own Garden of Eden, and have sex [on] your picnic mat after you finish your meal," Lee suggests. Furthermore, the opportunity for role play is simply too good here.
12. Get Down For Some Bathtub Sex
Make it extra special by including a picnic basket, charcuterie board, breads and jams, and sweet drinks. It'll start out as a cute cottagecore living room date and then get extra spicy as the night progresses. "Convert your living room into your own Garden of Eden, and have sex [on] your picnic mat after you finish your meal," Lee suggests. Furthermore, the opportunity for role play is simply too good here.