Is
your partner participating in the 'pocketing' dating trend?
You've
definitely heard of soft-launching, which is when people share information
about their partner on social media without revealing their identity, but have
you heard of pocketing?
Both
dating strategies are used to keep a connection covert, however, soft-launching
is well-intentioned, whereas pocketing is not.
What
exactly is pocketing?
Pocketing
is when someone keeps their spouse hidden from the rest of the world in a figurative
pocket. A person who is pocketing will do everything they can to disguise their
relationship status, whether it's not posting their significant other on social
media or refusing to let them meet their family.
Soft-launching
is a common strategy for young people to keep their relationship off the
internet, but they normally won't deny being in a relationship or hide it from
friends and family when they're attempting to keep it quiet.
How
can I tell if I'm being pocketed?
Consider
alternatives to social media.
If
your partner refuses to let you meet close friends or family members or
introduce you to more personal elements of their lives, you may be sure they're
pocketing your money.
Perhaps
they don't discuss their childhood or personal interests. Perhaps they won't
hang out with you or your friends, and vice versa. Perhaps they refuse to
follow you on social media.
These
are all symptoms that your partner is attempting to keep you hidden from the
outside world.
Why
do people pocket?
People
may conceal their evil intentions, such as when they are unfaithful. Other
times, though, it is done without malice.
If
a person is coming out of a poor relationship and is concerned that their new
one may fail, they may keep their new one hidden from the world until they feel
safe enough to do so. Maybe they're waiting to bring the right person home or
to their pals if they're casually dating.
In
any case, if you believe you're being pocketed, have an open and honest
discussion with your spouse about how or if the matter may be resolved.