What are the
5 stages of grief after a breakup?
Stage
1: Denial
No,
we haven't broken up; we're just taking a break. We didn't actually break up;
we simply had a huge argument. We'll be able to recuperate! He didn't really
pack his belongings and go, We moved in together, so we'll be able to make
it work. Denial, oh, denial. Denial, denial, denial, denial, denial, denial, de
The first stage of breakup grieving is denial, which lets us survive as our
brains comprehend the unthinkable—the brutal reality of a split.
Stage
2: Sadness
What
caused this to happen to me? What's the matter with me? I don't know how I'll
ever love again. As the reality of a separation sets in, you may feel
overwhelmed with melancholy. Breakup misery is certainly one-of-a-kind, with
endless tears, lethargy, restless nights, and eating a pint of ice cream for
dinner. You grieve not only for the past but also for the future. Both of you
could have shared the future, but you will never do so. The sadness that comes
with a breakup is crushing, alienating, and overwhelming. Take a deep breath
and assure yourself that you will be OK after watching the sad movie and eating
the chocolate cake.
Stage
3: Bargaining
If
he returns, I pledge we will never dispute again over his mother. If he returns,
I swear I won't complain about his demanding job. If he returns... The requests
we make to the cosmos can be long and winding, with a lot of promises. Don't
waste your time haggling, even if it's tempting. You're well aware that these
are hollow promises.
Stage
4: Anger
He
has no right to break up with me; doesn't he see how wonderful I am? He has no
right to take my favourite cooking pan because he isn't even a cook! He
shouldn't be out on a Friday night; he should be mourning our breakup! Anger is
my own favourite feeling after a breakup. On the plus side, rage can make us
feel productive by convincing us that we are making progress in our lives.
Anger, on the other hand, can quickly spiral out of control if left unchecked.
Keep your rage in check and punch your pillow instead of the wall. Your hand
(as well as the wall) will be grateful.
Stage
5: Acceptance
We
were never actually meant to be together, and that's fine. Both of us are still
deserving of love. I'll discover love once more. Acceptance is the last step of
the mourning process after a breakup; it's when you realise you're okay and
will be okay. It's the first time you've smiled at yourself in months when you
look in the mirror. It's the point at which you stop looking at pictures of the
two of you and tuck them away in the back of your closet. It's the moment you
curl up in bed with your dog and feel completely relaxed. It may take some
time, and these moments of acceptance are not always permanent. When they do
happen, remember that it was worth it, despite the heartbreak, grief's
complexity, relationship dysfunction, and everything else that comes with a
breakup. You fell in love, but the relationship didn't work out. But you gave
it your all, you overcame the unfathomable, and you will love again one day.