Unwritten dating rules: A single man raises controversy after an odd chat exchange with a Tinder match
After
an odd experience with a possible Tinder match, a single man has learned the
"unwritten rule" of dating.
On
Thursday, June 16, the man and the woman he had matched with on the well-known
dating app began corresponding, and they decided to meet up at noon on Sunday.
However,
the woman texted him a little over an hour before the date to let him know she
had "made other plans for the day" because she hadn't heard from him
for "confirmation."
The
man couldn't understand the message.
Along
with a screenshot of the text chats, he said in a Reddit thread, "Not sure
how I was supposed to know this criterion."
The
two had planned their first date just a few days prior, deciding they would
meet up over the weekend.
On
the morning of the date, the man texted her to say, "Just wanted to let
you know I'll be there today, see you in a while." They didn't communicate
again after that.
The
woman responded, "I didn't hear from you for confirmation this morning and
I've made other plans for the day," as he was walking to the date. Willing
to reschedule.
The
man replied in confusion, "Oh, I thought we confirmed a few days ago? I'm
sorry; I'll return home now.
"Yeah
for the first meeting someone I need earlier in the day of [the meeting]
confirmation, just for a check-up," the woman continued in the text.
When
you have never met someone, it is impossible to determine whether they are
trustworthy. I'm sorry, but you were already travelling.
The
single man commented on the circumstance, saying, "Well, I'm certainly as
heck not pleased to reschedule." She stated she's "happy to
reschedule."
The irony
More
than 3,400 individuals commented on his message, and most of them were equally
perplexed as he was.
"This
sums it all up—an unreliable individual worries about the other person's
dependability. The irony," a person said.
It's
strange that she actually made other plans when she might have simply contacted
you to confirm, another person commented. She could make other plans if she
didn't hear back.
One
person continued, "She's pretending it's to check someone's reliability
while proving she is, in fact, untrustworthy."
Some
individuals, however, backed the woman's actions, with one man stating: "I
do this all the time.
He
stated I've had people not show up before, and it's just not pleasant.
"I
send a text to confirm before leaving. I stay if I haven't heard anything by
the time I'm due to leave.
Fortunately,
no one has texted back, but I feel like it helps to calm my worries a little.
Unmatched
and blocked
Other
people had had comparable Tinder experiences to him.
The
man stated, I had a lunch date planned with a match a year ago, and we
confirmed it on a phone conversation the night before.
"Hello?"
was the text she sent to me one hour before the date. I then said, Hey, I'm
getting dressed right now, see you shortly.
The
following text from her said, "Forget it, I needed better communication
and this wasn't good enough.
Then
she mismatched me and blocked me.
Hilarious timing
Only
one individual claimed to have experienced the "exact same thing."
"I
had a successful first date with a female. Set up a brunch date for Sunday on
Friday, he said.
Texted
her on Sunday morning at 8 a.m.; she responded at midday, stating she had slept
in and believed I had ghosted her.
"On
Sunday, I changed the appointment to Tuesday. then texted to confirm Tuesday at
7 o'clock on Monday night.
She
claimed she believed I had ghosted once more and had to cancel. I left at that
point.
Unwritten Rule
Another
man claimed that after his date failed to show up because she had not heard
from him, he almost stood up.
We
agreed to the date a few days beforehand, and when I texted her when I arrived
at the restaurant, she replied, "Oh, I didn't hear from you so I thought
you weren't going," he claimed.
"Despite
the fact that she arrived very late, she truly felt horrible. Thank you for that.
It's
sort of an odd unwritten law, I suppose.