What Does Dating Anxious Attachment Look Like and What Does It Mean?
Nobody
informed us that dating may be challenging. Particularly in the present, online
dating has increased the difficulties and triggers. With the help of apps, we
have progressively come to accept ghosting, catfishing, a lack of clarity in
communication, and uneasy attachment.
"Anxiously
attached people are hungry for connection and will also be frightened of its
reliability," writes Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, Ph.D. in Very Well Mind. As
they look for signs that other people are sensitive to them, they have a
tendency to magnify emotional signals.
The
founder of attachment theory was a British psychologist named John Bowlby. Mary
Ainsworth later added to the theory. They contend that a person's attachment
style emerges through their interactions with their parents or other primary
caregivers while they are young (s).
When
parents abruptly go, either physically or emotionally, throughout childhood,
the anxious attachment style begins to develop. If the youngster did not
receive emotional support, it may cause them to be doubtful and dependent as
adults.
Elizabeth
Karina, an attachment and dating coach, recently posted on Instagram about
indications of nervous attachment in dating.
Anxious
attachment symptoms include:
1.
You might put the other person on a pedestal, get easily preoccupied with them,
and worry about whether they like you, have lost interest in you, will lose
interest in you, are pulling away, etc.
2.
As opposed to being centred between yourself and others, your attention is on
others (e.g., does this person like me and how can I make them like me?).
3.
Your neurological system is perfectly adapted to pick up on even the slightest
variations in communication, distance between contacts, emotional proximity,
etc. And any perception of separation or detachment will make you feel
incredibly uncomfortable and cause your nervous system to become hyperaroused
(anxious freakout state).
4.
Being rejected or left behind is your greatest fear (which translates to a fear
of the loss of connection). As a result, you'll probably strive to go above and
beyond to bridge the apparent distance between you and the other person.
She
clarifies what these indications might imply.
1)
It could indicate that someone has poor limits (trouble saying no)
2)
Anxiety is a result of uncertainty
3)
They require plenty of assurance.
4)
They attempt to be overly cordial and accommodating
5)
Considering texts and interactions too much
6)
Being the one to call or follow up on everything
7)
Oversharing, engaging in serious discourse right away
8)
Attempting to establish connection through engaging in physical intimacy