Nothing to do but still busy?

I have been doing almost nothing but I have been very busy. Sounds stupid but it’s true. I have been going to the same office and doing same work (which is not much at all) and after office, I have nothing urgent to attend to but I am so busy in my head. All the members of my family and friends keep complaining that I don’t give them as much time as much I used to.

I even can’t pay my bills on time; I keep pushing them to the due date even though I can pay the bills online in just a minute. I am unable to fulfill my interests of designing cloths or jewelry or cooking.

I keep saying it myself that I will do it ‘LATER’.

This ‘LATER’ is killing my life. I have become so busy in doing nothing. Surprisingly, when I looked around, I found that I am not alone who has been suffering from this ‘LATER’ syndrome. In my office, in my friend circle, in my family, there are so many people who are so free yet pretend to be so busy all the time. This weekend I sat down and decided to do something about it.

I realized we have been wasting time in absolutely useless activities and hence running out of usable/useful time of the day. Some of the most frequently attended but useless activities are-


  • YouTube

People spend enormous amount of time browsing irrelevant videos on YouTube. Crazy experimental videos caught on cam videos, viral videos, meaningless TikTok videos etc. We genuinely do not want to learn anything from YouTube videos but we love to browse through a few videos each day and kill our precious time. We know that we have to do some meaningful chore but we keep pushing that chore for ‘Later’ stage and wasting time on silly videos become our priority.

  • Social Media

We love to peep into the profiles of our friends and not so good friends, just to see what they are up to and whether they are doing better than us in their life or not. Instagram , Twitter and Facebook are the fav platforms where we just love to search through hundreds of pictures of friends, celebrities, makeup artists and bla bla. Rather than utilizing our time in doing something meaningful and important we are more interested in seeing those dresses on Instagram which we actually never gonna wear or even like in real world.

  • TV

You go back to your home in the evening and pretend to be tired as if you had a very busy day and sit in front of TV to give yourself some relaxing moment after your so called buys day. Does it sound familiar? Of yes it definitely does. We all do that, we just sit in front of TV and keep changing channels but we are not actually interested in watching any of the program, we are just used to killing our precious time. We have become so lazy and unambitious that these activities seem ok and we love to pretend that we are engaged with some activity at least such as watching TV.

  • Sitting around

At times we don’t watch any TV, we don’t browse through social media channels or YouTube videos, and we just sit around. Mind is busy in thinking hard about nothing. We just sit for hours and still mind is so busy inside, but none of the thoughts make any sense. We pretend to be thinking/planning some goals or ways to achieve those goals but after a few hours of sitting around, we get up and start doing something else such watching YouTube videos, everything else can be done’ LATER’.

We fail to realize that life is made of days and waste of any day means waste of a portion of that life. We continue to waste no. of days, we continue to waste even larger portion of our life. It’s very simple to understand but then let’s watch some YouTube/TikTok videos because thinking about life can be done LATER!

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3. #WhyShouldiShutUp: 2 min into chat and he says, ‘send me yr nudes..’

Some days we really want to CARPE DIEM irrespective of its consequences. This day is one of them. After break up, it is my first morning. Bit sad but full of freedom. Crying on the night of break up is kind of ritual isn’t it? Well I followed it religiously and am feeling all relaxed after successfully completing the traditional break up process. Now the next step is to catch up with my girls for our own girly chit chat. I wake myself up and take hold of my phone to text all my girlfriends/ sakhi saheliyan. Suddenly, mom enters with my bed tea along with her refreshing taunt “Make your phone your boyfriend”. Actually, that taunt is more like a slap on my wrong choices of boyfriends. I am imagining mom with that thug style goggles and cigar after her pro level punchline.

I am basically on a hunt for some hot boys now and it’s been so long that I haven’t flirted with one. The search is too long that it is evening from morning and I am successfully getting failed so I decide to meet my best friend Kavya. She is the only one who is able to take care of my after break up tantrums and mood swings.

Guess what? Her cousin from London is visiting her and I am invited to meet him, which is no less of an opportunity for my broken heart to get repaired again! Besides, he is so hot and the moment we met, that real game of eye contact has started already. He comes bit closer and talks to me. He is been talking and my eyes are all over him, his moving lips, his eyes, his smile and his cheek bones. Everything about him was so good. He seemed not only attractive but also a very decent and intelligent guy. A part of me wanted to ask for his phone number buy I am bit shy to ask for it. So I leave it the way it is and head back home bare hands.


I knew mom would again serve her thug style taunt and while opening the door, she throws her ever sweet line at me, ‘oh, you came too early’/’Thoda aur late aate beta’ and I am like, mom please, not today. Irritated I entered my room but it took no time to cheer up seeing notification in phone that Kavya tagged me in a pic on Instagram. I knew, she would have tagged Kunal (her cousin) as well. I know of his Instagram account now but the problem now is whether I send him the follow request or wait for his request? After waiting for a while I sent him the request (I know, it just happened!).

Only I know, how happy I was but who knew it wouldn’t last that long. I message him, ‘Hi’ and the conversation starts. As imagined, he seemed like a nice guy and kind of gentleman as well. But few hours into chit chat and it starts showing who he really was. First he says “I just noticed something in you and I am sorry for doing that”, I ask him what is it? He says “it is nothing, just leave it.” So I get even more curious about what he s noticed about me in such a short while. He creates suspense just to force me to ask him repeatedly, and stupidly I did exactly that.

After all, he replies, ‘you have really good tits and ass’. I am shocked and blank!

A supposedly decent guy and a gentleman just turned into a very disrespectful and ill-mannered male.  Nobody ever talked to me like this and he doesn’t stop just there. You know what next thing he asked me for? He says, ‘I want you to send me your nudes’. It shook me up, how can somebody, whom I know only for like past 4 hours can ask me for my nudes? I obviously say ‘NO’ to him. And he sums it up by saying, ‘you are a whore!’ He ridiculed me for the things I didn’t do.


For an instance I started doubting myself, am I a whore just because I wanted to chat with a nice guy and tried to get to know him, just because he seemed nice and decent? His 5 minutes online chat made me feel disgusted. I deleted my Insta account out of frustration. I decided to keep away from so called ‘seemingly decent’ guys.

But it still makes me wonder why it is so hard for males to accept NO from a female? Is it an insult to their masculinity? Or they are just not used to it? They have been doing whatever they ever wanted for ages and a female saying NO to their disgusted fantasies is a blow to their ego. Well, sooner or later they will have to understand that a female is not a product which they can use at their will, female also carries a heart inside which beats and beats for all the right reasons. I appeal to all male population of the world that they better take a big size print out of ‘NO MEANS NO’ and paste on the their main door, when they leave the house, they read it out loud and then face the females outside!


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