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#TripleTalaq: The Theory Of Divorce

  • What does the Quran say about the Muslim woman’s hijab?

Muslim men don’t want women to know their power. If we go back to the time long before the modern conventions, to a time where Prophet Mohammad was given a task of finding a solution to the women being attacked, molested or harassed. If a woman was wearing a Jilbab (a garment like a coat), the man is supposed to leave her alone as Jilbab is like a status and it makes a woman free and a free woman is meant to be protected but if a woman wasn’t wearing a Jilbab then the men knew that the woman is a slave and they attacked her. This problem was gone to the Prophet Mohammad who faced many social and political situations at that time.

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“*Oh Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) over their bodies. That is most convenient that they could be known as such(i.e. decent & chaste) and not be molested. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.*”

The philosophy of work “TALAQ” recited by the men thrice. What after that?

It just takes three words to decide a woman’s fate of life forever, it exploits her life. It can be recited verbally or in written form. And what after the Talaq (divorce) that the husband wants to re-marry her? The Muslim laws are followed and the women alone get torn between the past and the present. It shows the absolute power of the Muslim men that they can disown their wives without her consent and even without the consent of the court.

Nikah Halala is practised by the Muslims in which a female divorcee marries someone else, consummates the marriage and then gets a divorce in order to make it allowable to remarry her previous husband.

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According to the Quran:

Verily, Allah loves a house in which a wedding is held and hates a house in which a divorce is conducted and there is nothing more hateful than divorce.

If divorce is such a sin in the culture of Islam but having sexual relations with another man just to re-marry his wife again is not a sin? Is it acceptable to ruin the life of that woman? And why a woman has not got the right to divorce if her husband beats her, makes life hard on her, curses her. Is it acceptable to tell her to have patience and tolerate and bear it until her death arrives? These are not the rhetorical questions of this society; this is the real truth behind these questions.

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These words will end, the voice that is being raised for these topics will not be uttered again, no action will be taken after tons of videos on this but that one thing that won’t stop i.e. – The unknown violence on women done on the name of culture and Quran and if the women will not come forward then no one can really take stand for them. They are the only solutions to their problems. They should come forward rather sitting and tolerating the violence which they should not. They can transform the lives of women.

Educating Muslim women around every corner will be a great help. The voices that are being suppressed from years will be raised. This should be the motive of every educated Muslim woman to educate other illiterate women so that a BIG change can be seen in the future.

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How to be Confident: Be You

It’s not easy being a woman. Be proud if you are born a woman. I know it’s hard at the beginning of each year; I set professional goals that I share with no one else, mainly to allow myself the freedom of audacity. I aim high setting my stretch goals so far outside of what looks possible that I get little scared just thinking about them. Much to my surprise, I’ve reached more of that stretch goal than I ever accomplished when I kept within modest safe boundaries.

When we stretch ourselves outside of our own confidence, when we are willing to live on the edge of our ability, there is energy, a drive that isn’t present within the confines of safe life. And using personal achievement as a catalyst to create an opportunity for other is just as important. Fulfilment does not lie within the fountain provision and safety. It lies in the joy carrying other forward as a result of our own journey.

Finding role modal who exhibits proof that it is possible to build illustrate careers, while carrying others forward, has helped me broaden my perspective. Some are dear friends and mentors while other simply inspires me by how they are choosing to spend their lives.

So, how can you be an inspiring woman?

Radiant humble confidence:

This is not as easy as it sounds. But someone who works hard enough (yes, acquiring confidence is hard work), has self-awareness, and is conscious of and connected to those around them, is exuding true modest assurance, and that’s inspiring.

Embrace your imperfection: Try to use your strength. Make yourself better. As a female you can use your ability to read the reactions of people and improve if you need to.

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Be authentic: Just be you. It’s really that simple. The most inspiring women are those who are honest in their thoughts and in their actions. Interactions with inspiring women always feel genuine.

Your creativity is important: women, who inspire, are always unique and funny in their own way. So, don’t be so serious every time and stay happy. Your inner creativity helps you to connect with people. The best example of this trait is Twinkle Khanna alias Mrs Funny Bones.

Okay, let me guess, what you might find surprising? Which women inspire you? She may be your mother, your sister, your mother-in-law, your daughter, your teacher, that gynecologist, and so many other women that you encounter throughout a normal day. Don’t look at newspapers, magazines and in other places, just look around yourself and you will find them.

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